Is Your Child Scared of the Dark? 8 Ways to Help

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Fear of the dark is very common, especially between ages 2 and 6, when imaginations are growing fast. The fear is very real to your child, even if you know there’s nothing under the bed. Here’s how to help them feel safe.

1. Listen and take it seriously. Never tease or say “That’s silly.” Say “I hear you. Being scared feels yucky. Let’s figure this out together.”
2. Explain that fear is normal. Everyone feels scared sometimes, even grown-ups.
3. Add a night light. A soft night light or a star projector can make the room feel cozy instead of scary. Choose a warm, dim light so it doesn’t disturb sleep.
4. Offer a comfort item. A favorite stuffed animal or blanket can be a “bedtime buddy” (for kids over 1).
5. Keep bedtime calm and predictable. A soothing routine with a bath, books and cuddles helps kids wind down.
6. Watch what they watch. Even kids’ shows can have scary scenes. Skip anything scary before bed.
7. Practice being brave. Play flashlight games or have a “dark-room treasure hunt” in the daytime to make the dark fun.
8. Check in, then step out. Promise to check on them in five minutes, and do it. Knowing you’ll come back helps them relax.

Look for other worries

New fears sometimes pop up with big changes, like a move, a new sibling, starting school or family stress. Extra cuddles and talks help. If fears are intense, last for months or keep your child from sleeping, talk to your pediatrician.

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FAQ

At what age are kids scared of the dark?

It’s most common between 2 and 6, but older kids can feel it too.

Should I check for monsters?

Some experts suggest not “checking,” since it can suggest monsters are real. Calmly reassure them instead.

Is a night light okay for sleep?

Yes. Choose a dim, warm-colored light.

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